{"id":13066,"date":"2018-08-22T06:35:22","date_gmt":"2018-08-22T06:35:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.proprofs.com\/c\/?p=13066"},"modified":"2026-02-02T07:19:15","modified_gmt":"2026-02-02T07:19:15","slug":"handle-boastful-project-manager","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.proprofsproject.com\/blog\/handle-boastful-project-manager\/","title":{"rendered":"Five Ways To Handle Boastful Project Manager"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cHey! The previous two releases went fine only because of my coordination.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p>\u201c<em>Aren\u2019t you aware I am the Subject matter expert in this area?<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cMy team is compliant every month because of the tough metrics I chart out.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do all the above dialogues ring a bell? Everybody does boast once in a while but what happens if you have a project manager who is a regular brag and uses every opportunity to boast about his achievements, skills or his expertise.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Project Managers are now employed in most of the public and private enterprises across domains so there are chances you have come across boastful behavior from your project manager. As per the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lexico.com\/definition\/boast\">Oxford dictionary<\/a>, <em>the word boast means to talk with excessive pride and self-satisfaction about one&#8217;s achievements, possessions, or abilities<\/em>.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Constant boasting by an individual in an office can be an annoying experience for others.<\/span><\/p>\n<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_17 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-grey\">\n<nav><ul class=\"ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1\"><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/www.proprofsproject.com\/blog\/handle-boastful-project-manager\/#People_who_boast_may_do_these_for_various_reasons\" title=\"People who boast may do these for various reasons\">People who boast may do these for various reasons<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/www.proprofsproject.com\/blog\/handle-boastful-project-manager\/#How_to_Handle_Boastful_Colleagues_without_sounding_harsh\" title=\"How to Handle Boastful Colleagues without sounding harsh\">How to Handle Boastful Colleagues without sounding harsh<\/a><ul class=\"ez-toc-list-level-3\"><li class=\"ez-toc-heading-level-3\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/www.proprofsproject.com\/blog\/handle-boastful-project-manager\/#1_Request_Knowledge_Sharing\" title=\"1. Request Knowledge Sharing\">1. Request Knowledge Sharing<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/www.proprofsproject.com\/blog\/handle-boastful-project-manager\/#2_Self_Praise_Rescue\" title=\"2. Self Praise Rescue\">2. Self Praise Rescue<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-5\" href=\"https:\/\/www.proprofsproject.com\/blog\/handle-boastful-project-manager\/#3_Teach_By_Example\" title=\"3. Teach By Example\">3. Teach By Example<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-6\" href=\"https:\/\/www.proprofsproject.com\/blog\/handle-boastful-project-manager\/#4_Avoid_Consistently\" title=\"4. Avoid Consistently\">4. Avoid Consistently<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-7\" href=\"https:\/\/www.proprofsproject.com\/blog\/handle-boastful-project-manager\/#5_No_Gossip_Please\" title=\"5. No Gossip Please\">5. No Gossip Please<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"People_who_boast_may_do_these_for_various_reasons\"><\/span><strong>People who boast may do these for various reasons<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To let his or her subordinates know about their skills sets or knowledge, <\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some may feel insecure about their environment and boasting helps them to overcome this feeling, <\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some exhibit this as their natural behavior while some do it to show their superiority. <\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Such people never lose an opportunity to brag about themselves either in front of their superiors, peers or juniors.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Teamwork plays an important role in any project or program so one Project Manager(PM) taking the credit for the entire team&#8217;s work or boasting about a successful delivery is not likely to be appreciated.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Consider this:<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A PM comes and sits next to you frequently and goes bragging about his achievements without realizing he is disturbing you or in another case during a team meeting a PM never misses an opportunity to boast about himself and last and the most important every conversation with this colleague makes you feel you have not achieved what he has achieved in his work thereby demotivating you. You cannot avoid listening to a little boasting in your office but if you are continuously disturbed by this behavior it is time to nib if off at the start.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Federic Neuman, M.D, Director of the Anxiety and Phobia Center at White Plains hospital says very aptly in one of his blog posts that \u201c<em>Boasting is unpleasant to listen because the person boasting is not interested in you. So it&#8217;s only a one-sided conversation where one brags and another person is forced to listen.<\/em>\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How_to_Handle_Boastful_Colleagues_without_sounding_harsh\"><\/span><strong>How to Handle Boastful Colleagues without sounding harsh<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1_Request_Knowledge_Sharing\"><\/span><strong>1. Request Knowledge Sharing<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you come across episodes of boastful behavior from your colleague, <strong>request him to share his expertise in a large forum instead of just talking to you<\/strong>. If their intention was only to boast to you they will not be keen on the knowledge sharing. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For e.g. you could say, \u201cHey, you haven\u2019t set up the knowledge sharing session which I requested last time,\u201d whenever he walks up to you to boast. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ignore and not give any feedback if they are only seeking an audience to their boasting. They might try a couple of times but once they understand you are not interested they are unlikely to give it a try again.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2_Self_Praise_Rescue\"><\/span><strong>2. Self Praise Rescue<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Braggers are not very comfortable to hear someone else\u2019s bragging. So go ahead and say something superlative about yourself, for example, \u201cYou know what? I am the only person always called as the interview panelist from our team.\u201d <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Then as to self-correct say,&#8221; I am boasting about myself which is not right.&#8221; Hopefully, this would get the bragger an idea about how you feel about people who boast.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3_Teach_By_Example\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>3. Teach By Example<\/strong><\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>Give an example of a Project Manager who stays grounded<\/strong> even after achieving so much. This would help to set a context that getting appreciations from others is far accepted than hearing one&#8217;s self-praise. Bring up an example of a colleague in your conversation.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&#8220;Peter is so grounded and doesn&#8217;t brag about himself. In fact, his team keeps praising what a great Project Manager he is and I feel that is the best appreciation one can get rather than boasting about oneself.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4_Avoid_Consistently\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><strong>4. Avoid Consistently<\/strong><\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you feel you are becoming a regular listener to the person\u2019s boasting you need to take a stand and let him know that you have better things to do than listen to his boasting. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Say \u201cHey! I have to rush for a meeting! \u201cOr \u201cI am held up with some urgent work can we talk later?\u201d Stay consistent in your behavior to avoid such discussions with the bragger.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Be professional and formal in your interactions. Stay assertive and be open to saying no for any behavior not acceptable to you.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5_No_Gossip_Please\"><\/span><strong>5. No Gossip Please<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> If you are not comfortable about a person\u2019s boasting behavior avoid gossiping about him to others. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You should be mature enough to call for a meeting and talk to your colleague in a room if his behavior upsets you rather than tell other colleagues. The person may be uncomfortable to hear people talking behind him so be careful to avoid this at any cost.<\/span><\/p>\n<hr>\n<p><strong>Recommended Reads:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.proprofsproject.com\/blog\/challenge-faced-by-project-managers\/\">#1 Challenge Faced by the Project Managers<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.proprofsproject.com\/blog\/time-management-tips-for-project-managers\/\">Time Management Tips for Project Managers<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u201cHey! The previous two releases went fine only because of my coordination.\u201d \u201cAren\u2019t you aware I am the Subject matter expert in this area?\u201d \u201cMy team is compliant every month because of the tough metrics I chart out.\u201d Do all the above dialogues ring a bell? 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